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| Complicated Feelings |
Many people have fantasies towards love affairs. In teenagers?world, love is extraordinarily fasinating, including unpredictable excitements. |
| Complicated Problems |
Teenagers are not only responsible for themselves, but also for their families, school, and friends. Being inexperienced, it is not easy to strike a balance between love and all other aspects of life. |
| Common Problems |
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Common problems include falling in love with someone but don't know how to express; |
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Finding oneself more interested in developing a romantic relationship with someone of the same sex; |
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Worrying about or indeed facing problems such as lovers?change of heart, or getting too intimate with the other sex; |
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The affections to teacher turns from admiration to love; |
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Worrying about that their feelings of love are to be discovered by their families; |
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Doing worse in school because of dating; and/or |
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Falling in love with ICQ friends whom they have never seen before. |
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| Understanding from Adults |
What complicates the situation is that teenagers rarely get approval and understanding from adults. When they want to speak of their feelings, they would probably get a cold cynical scold like "In future, you'll know how silly you were!" "You're spending all your time on dating. How's your schoolwork?" "I started working when I was sixteen. It was different from how you're living now!" "How much do you know about love?" The more such cynicisms the teenagers are given, the more reluctant they are to discuss their true feelings with others. They feel that no one could ever understand them. |
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References:
P.W.C. Wong (2004). Psychologist at HKJC CSRP
The Hong Kong Federation of Youth Groups (HKFYG) (2004). The outlook for love. Hong Kong.
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