Depressed Little Prince -- Sharing Garden

Obstacle 1: Judging

Criticizing	While positive criticism can help others improve, too much of it would be disregarded as disapproval.
Labelling	Labelling can block communication because of the negative connotations such as "intellectual" and "bully." Sometimes even apparently positive labelling like "dedicated" and "hard working" may prevent you from appreciating others as as a person.
Diagnosing	It means trying to assess someone's personality and analyze for him/her, according to your personal judgement, the reasons behind this person's speech and/or action. Many people will understandably resent this amateur psychological snooping.
Praising	Praises become an obstacle when they are perceived as manipulative or patronizing, even if you were sincere when you said so.

Obstacle 2: Sending solutions

Ordering	Essentially declaring that others are inferior to you.
Threatening	Physical, emotional, and material threat may give you an illusion of control over others; nonetheless, this is not a result of respect but fear and eventually distrust of others.
Moralizing	Preaching about the "should?and "shouldn't?earns yourself no respect but disdains as you are essentially denying others?right to decide for themselves.
Questioning	Excessive questioning can turn out to be an interrogation, especially when the questions are engineered towards answers you expected, rather than what the other person would like to discuss.
Closed-end questions	Again, conversations that lead nowhere but to conclusions you wanted to reach; others opinion are rendered irrelevant.
Admonishing	Admonishments often imply denial of others?opinions while imposing yours upon them. More likely than not, your insistence would be considered groundless as even the simplest argument concerns factors for which your limited knowledge and experiences are barely sufficient and appropriate.

Obstacle 3: Dodging the other's concerns

Digressing	Nitpicking insignificant points from others?argument from which you then wander off out of your own interest.
Arguing in the name of logic	Focusing on the so-called "facts" while ignoring the others?feelings. In problematic situations, feelings are usually more important.
Reassuring	Boiling down to denying the others?feelings in the end, because you do not truly understand why.

Obstacle 4: "I've seen that!"

It should already be obvious to you that it is not uncommon to find hundreds of others you know who exhibit the problems stated above. Let's not forget that you could well be one of them. This is the ultimate obstacle your must overcome; reflect on your behaviours and re-evaluate how you treat others.