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Four Paths to Self-Esteem |
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You must acknowledge that "worthiness" is just an abstraction. It cannot be measured. You cannot have it or fail to have it. There can be enormous satisfactions from various aspects of daily life that are totally independent of any concept of worthiness. |
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Acknowledge that everyone has his/her "unit of worthiness" from birth till death. Life experiences may vary vastly among all of us but your "unit of worthiness" can never change - you are still precious. Your sole responsibility is to enhance your happiness and satisfaction through living fulfilling. |
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Recognize that there is only one way you can lose a sense of self-worth----by persecuting yourself with unreasonable, illogical negative thoughts. Never hold yourself reprehensible to negative thoughts. Instead, deal with them by meaningful and rational responses. |
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Self-esteem can be viewed as your decision to treat yourself like a beloved friend. Give him/her the best; let him/her know how much you regard him/her. Make him/her feel at home, in comfort and at peace. |
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How to Act Confidently |
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Stand tall |
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Look into other people's eyes. Don't look down at the ground. |
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Speak clearly and reasonably loud |
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Don't give a little laugh after you speak |
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Don't smile too much in a nervous way |
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Smile confidently where appropriate |
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Don't hesitate |
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Don't fidget |
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How to be an interesting person |
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Show your interest in others?things, and others will find you interesting. |
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Listen carefully, ask meaningful questions, and others will find you interesting. |
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Talk about topics which the others are interested in, and try to keep them brief. If the others show no interest, just cut the topic. |
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Discuss topics that interest all. Take turns in conversations. |
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Try to be funny when describing experiences. The audience will like your illustrations for sure. |
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References:
Burn, D. (1999) (3rd ed.). Feeling good: The new mood therapy. New York: Avon.
McGrath, H., & Francey, S. (1999). Friendly kids friendly classrooms. Sydney: Longman Pearson.
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